A common problem I am hearing from parents is: “My child is angry all the time, has meltdowns, throws huge tantrums and is not happy. I don’t know what to do!!”
I would like to share 3 tips you can try that help take the edge of your little ones emotional outbursts.
Firstly, when I talk about energies, I am referring to the thoughts, feelings and other energies that we can’t see but are there and affecting us. We all feel these energies all the time, but rarely pay much attention to them. These are things like, you might walk into a room and the tension is thick, you know something is happening on an energy vibe level! Or when you are talking to an upset friend and your heart goes out to them, you feel their pain. Often children, especially sensitive children, will pick up on all the energies/feelings.They might adopt these as their own feelings or believe they have done something to deserve it eg. When they get yelled at by someone who is completely over the top (in their own stuff) and the sensitive child starts to believe that they have done something wrong, something so bad they deserved that intense outburst.
I find with my own children that after school they have been exposed to all sorts of dramas going on in their day. Friendship drama, frustrated teachers, other children’s issues, helping their friends, trying to do the “right” thing at school and holding it all together (their own beliefs about what they should be doing). After a day of this they can come home feeling like they have been in the washing machine!
So, to help them get back into a space of clarity, where they can feel their own self again. Where they feel like their awesome selves!
Here are my top 3 tips to keep their energy clear and stay in a space of calm:
- Baths/shower: Water is amazing at washing away energy! I teach my kids to use the intention of washing away anything from the day that makes them feel yucky and bad. Anything that isn’t theirs.For an added energy clearing boost we also add a couple of cups of sea salt to the bath. I buy this in bulk at the supermarket (pool salt). We will also add a couple of drops of lavender oil. Or if they are just having a shower I fill up a bowl with salt and add a few drops of lavender oil and wa-la the perfect potent energy clearing concoction!
- Foods: Have a huge impact on how we feel. From when my children were little I was very aware of the effect food had on their emotions and I have made sure they had foods that they didn’t react to most of the time.In saying that, as they get older I have allowed them to experiment on their own a lot more with their food choices, in the end they need to be the ones that understand the effects different foods have on their emotions. Recently we went to the local nines café and bought a green loaded milkshake, my son told me “my brain is doing weird flips”! Sometimes it can be something simple in the food, like a preservative or even some of the “natural” colours have sent my children into an emotional tornado! But knowing that it is just a reaction to the foods they have consumed helps us all deal with it and avoid regular explosions! It also means I don’t take what they say personally in those times. This is my favourite resource for foods, click this link to see what basic preservatives and additives to avoid that the majority of kids react to, it might be something you are giving your child every day without actually realising it!
- Computer screens vs Nature: It seems obvious but screen times effect how your child feels. The energy of racing, shooting or just being in a ready to fight is creating a fight/flight adrenaline rush, but the child is not physically letting that build up of energy out! I find spending time in nature, at the beach, in the rainforest changes their mood DRAMATICALLY!! This connection with nature grounds us and calms not just our minds but our whole beings. It is so simple yet amazingly uplifting.
These 3 simple things could be the difference between a calm, happy connected child or a two-headed angry screaming monster out for vengeance!
If after trying these techniques you are still finding your child is not calming, I would love to help you find a solution. Working one on one I can intuitively tune into what is going on and give you specific guidance and insight as well as tools and healing if needed that will have your family life one of ease and joy 🙂
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